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  • July 2025
    • Jul 30, 2025 Trauma: another word for the stress a caregiver experiences? Jul 30, 2025
    • Jul 23, 2025 Obvious but unspoken: Evelyn is going to die. (But maybe not soon) Jul 23, 2025
    • Jul 16, 2025 How and why caregivers order their days around another’s needs Jul 16, 2025
    • Jul 9, 2025 Since we are our memory, what does this mean for her—and for me? Jul 9, 2025
    • Jul 7, 2025 So many Monday Meditations, but no more new ones for a while Jul 7, 2025
    • Jul 2, 2025 I’m still surprised by grief, and I’m still surprised that’s true Jul 2, 2025
  • June 2025
    • Jun 30, 2025 Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Five: the lament Jun 30, 2025
    • Jun 25, 2025 June 22, 2025: It’s an important date, but I almost forgot why Jun 25, 2025
    • Jun 23, 2025 Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Four: The loyalty Jun 23, 2025
    • Jun 18, 2025 A voice from the past, a reflection that makes us sad—and proud Jun 18, 2025
    • Jun 16, 2025 Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Three: The friend Jun 16, 2025
    • Jun 11, 2025 Confirming today the truth of two conclusions reached long ago Jun 11, 2025
    • Jun 9, 2025 Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Two: the enemy Jun 9, 2025
    • Jun 4, 2025 Just two words, but they capture the essence of our days with Evelyn Jun 4, 2025
    • Jun 2, 2025 Monday Meditation: Portraits of a king, Part One: The choice Jun 2, 2025
  • May 2025
    • May 28, 2025 It’s a question for every caregiver, but the answer isn’t easy May 28, 2025
    • May 26, 2025 Learning to trust, Part 4: A man of action, a spirit of submission May 26, 2025
    • May 21, 2025 Questions after a week with Covid: one disease, two experiences May 21, 2025
    • May 19, 2025 Learning to Trust, Part 3: He obeyed God and wasn’t happy about it May 19, 2025
    • May 14, 2025 ‘Thanks to dementia’ their stories encourage me to tell my own May 14, 2025
    • May 12, 2025 Learning to Trust, Part 2: When we’ve reached the end of our limits May 12, 2025
    • May 7, 2025 Facing up to ‘never’ with a task I would not have anticipated May 7, 2025
    • May 5, 2025 Learning to Trust, Part 1: Choose Solomon’s prayer first and most May 5, 2025
  • April 2025
    • Apr 30, 2025 Sunday was my birthday number 75 (gulp!). I can hardly even admit it Apr 30, 2025
    • Apr 28, 2025 The Man, The Mystery, The Meaning, Part 5: He wished them peace Apr 28, 2025
    • Apr 23, 2025 ‘You’re handling this pretty well,’ he said. I think he’s right Apr 23, 2025
    • Apr 21, 2025 The Man, the Mystery, the Meaning, Part 4: He heard their story Apr 21, 2025
    • Apr 16, 2025 Questions about a task that should be simple—but somehow isn’t Apr 16, 2025
    • Apr 14, 2025 The Man, the Mystery, the Meaning, Part 3: He bore their taunts Apr 14, 2025
    • Apr 9, 2025 Marking the one-year anniversary of Evelyn’s move to memory care Apr 9, 2025
    • Apr 7, 2025 The Man, the Mystery, the Meaning, Part 2: He prayed all alone Apr 7, 2025
    • Apr 2, 2025 Another first for me: two weeks away to the other side of the world Apr 2, 2025
  • March 2025
    • Mar 30, 2025 The Man, the Mystery, the Meaning, Part 1: He washed their feet Mar 30, 2025
    • Mar 26, 2025 The questions I tried to answer, and the one that left me speechless Mar 26, 2025
    • Mar 24, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 12: No matter what you’re facing, keep singing! Mar 24, 2025
    • Mar 19, 2025 A caregiver’s plea for help: ‘I feel bad about feeling bad!’ Mar 19, 2025
    • Mar 17, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 11: Why God created the church: Together is better Mar 17, 2025
    • Mar 12, 2025 Thanks to a reader who’s helping me understand ‘quality of life’ Mar 12, 2025
    • Mar 10, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 10: We can, we must, tell someone about Jesus Mar 10, 2025
    • Mar 5, 2025 Everything’s different, but little changes: is this worth noting? Mar 5, 2025
    • Mar 3, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 9: We need nourishment only the Bible provides Mar 3, 2025
  • February 2025
    • Feb 26, 2025 Two days with a stomach bug: the good, the bad, and the lonely Feb 26, 2025
    • Feb 24, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 8: Considering the power of a positive example Feb 24, 2025
    • Feb 19, 2025 Not perfect, of course, but really, we’ve had a very good week Feb 19, 2025
    • Feb 17, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 7: Two strategies for growing spiritually Feb 17, 2025
    • Feb 12, 2025 ‘She is not here.’ Reflection on good times with other people Feb 12, 2025
    • Feb 10, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 6: Our walk is really hard—and really worth it! Feb 10, 2025
    • Feb 5, 2025 Rethinking what has really happened when I say God is blessing us Feb 5, 2025
    • Feb 3, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 5: Remember, the gospel is free, but not cheap Feb 3, 2025
  • January 2025
    • Jan 29, 2025 Writing to a new friend about the journey he’s just beginning Jan 29, 2025
    • Jan 27, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 4: Our Heavenly Father will walk beside us Jan 27, 2025
    • Jan 22, 2025 A new reader prompted reflection on where I am in this journey Jan 22, 2025
    • Jan 20, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 3: Learning how to tap the superpower within Jan 20, 2025
    • Jan 17, 2025 My caregiving story: rewards, mistakes, guilt, and questions Jan 17, 2025
    • Jan 15, 2025 Out of the house, out of ourselves, receiving as much as we gave Jan 15, 2025
    • Jan 13, 2025 Finish Line Faith 2: A backward look can inspire forward motion Jan 13, 2025
    • Jan 8, 2025 Meditation on a snowy morning: Coziness brings some comfort Jan 8, 2025
    • Jan 6, 2025 Finish Line Faith, 1: What to do when you feel like giving in Jan 6, 2025
    • Jan 1, 2025 Pondering a year just past, wondering about the months to come Jan 1, 2025
  • December 2024
    • Dec 30, 2024 Christmas Is for You: God’s provision may not look the way we’d choose Dec 30, 2024
    • Dec 25, 2024 ‘Different’ has become our new normal, so Christmas is different too Dec 25, 2024
    • Dec 23, 2024 Christmas Is for You: A story full of searching and surprises Dec 23, 2024
    • Dec 18, 2024 My challenge: Learning to walk through the valley of in-between Dec 18, 2024
    • Dec 16, 2024 Christmas Is for You: Joyful, patient, faithful—he was all three Dec 16, 2024
    • Dec 11, 2024 A ‘Christmas Card’ to help me deal with the paradox inside me Dec 11, 2024
    • Dec 9, 2024 Christmas Is for You: These two learned about God and his promises Dec 9, 2024
    • Dec 4, 2024 Facing the holidays, reflecting on the year we decided to go public Dec 4, 2024
    • Dec 2, 2024 Christmas Is for You: The promise it offers is for caregivers, too Dec 2, 2024
  • November 2024
    • Nov 27, 2024 Of all my many reasons to be thankful, these people top the list Nov 27, 2024
    • Nov 23, 2024 Embracing Lament: We’re not too old for what all of us need most: hope Nov 23, 2024
    • Nov 20, 2024 ‘She’s still in there.’ We love it. But we miss everything lost Nov 20, 2024
    • Nov 18, 2024 Embracing Lament: The changes come slowly, so the lament comes daily Nov 18, 2024
    • Nov 13, 2024 Grief. Guilt. Mourning. I’m showing the symptoms, and that’s OK Nov 13, 2024
    • Nov 11, 2024 Embracing Lament: God is author of the joy we may find in silence Nov 11, 2024
    • Nov 6, 2024 ‘Nothing new’ is good enough. In fact, I’ve decided it’s very good Nov 6, 2024
    • Nov 4, 2024 Embracing Lament: Naming our enemies, then calling on God to conquer Nov 4, 2024
  • October 2024
    • Oct 30, 2024 Let me see people alone at Panera today when I stop for a snack Oct 30, 2024
    • Oct 28, 2024 Embracing Lament: The matter to address before anything else Oct 28, 2024
    • Oct 23, 2024 Getting better, slowly better, at knowing when things should end Oct 23, 2024
    • Oct 21, 2024 Embracing Lament: We can be good news to others who are suffering Oct 21, 2024
    • Oct 16, 2024 A challenge for readers: Choose a word to describe my weekend Oct 16, 2024
    • Oct 14, 2024 Embracing Lament: We can be sure Jesus understands how we feel Oct 14, 2024
    • Oct 9, 2024 Remembering October 5, 2024: Her first birthday in her new home Oct 9, 2024
    • Oct 7, 2024 Embracing Lament: The God who acted yesterday is with us still today Oct 7, 2024
    • Oct 2, 2024 I’ve been chronicling the changes without expecting more of them Oct 2, 2024
  • September 2024
    • Sep 30, 2024 Embracing Lament: The prayer power in just one three-letter word Sep 30, 2024
    • Sep 25, 2024 The touch I cherish. (Cherish, because it speaks of so much more) Sep 25, 2024
    • Sep 23, 2024 Embracing Lament: The power in asking God for exactly what we need Sep 23, 2024
    • Sep 18, 2024 I’m fighting loneliness, and I think, I THINK, I’m winning the battle Sep 18, 2024
    • Sep 16, 2024 Embracing Lament: Our complaints deserve something better than nice Sep 16, 2024
    • Sep 11, 2024 Some forgetting I’d be just as pleased if I couldn’t remember Sep 11, 2024
    • Sep 9, 2024 Embracing Lament: God’s still there, no matter how long we’re waiting Sep 9, 2024
    • Sep 4, 2024 Good grief: A weekend with lifetime friends yields a new definition Sep 4, 2024
    • Sep 2, 2024 Embracing Lament: Cry out to God. Pain is the perfect time to pray Sep 2, 2024
  • August 2024
    • Aug 28, 2024 Embracing lament: health and hope for anyone burdened by loss Aug 28, 2024
    • Aug 26, 2024 Questions from the Bible, Part Four: ‘What must I do to be saved?’ Aug 26, 2024
    • Aug 21, 2024 Two lives ending bring me questions I can only trust with God Aug 21, 2024
    • Aug 19, 2024 Questions from the Bible, Part Three: ‘What evil has he done?’ Aug 19, 2024
    • Aug 14, 2024 Navigating change is everyone’s challenge, but for me it’s different Aug 14, 2024
    • Aug 12, 2024 Questions from the Bible, Part Two: ‘Which of these was his neighbor?’ Aug 12, 2024
    • Aug 7, 2024 Good people. Good question. Two words. Good weekend. Good progress Aug 7, 2024
    • Aug 5, 2024 Questions from the Bible, Part One: ‘Why were you looking for me?’ Aug 5, 2024
  • July 2024
    • Jul 31, 2024 Beginning with tears, ending with reflection: An old man’s pattern Jul 31, 2024
    • Jul 29, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 9: Why was he the only one to say thanks? Jul 29, 2024
    • Jul 24, 2024 A trip to a scenic corner. A step in the journey that now feels new Jul 24, 2024
    • Jul 22, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 8: They overcame the obstacles and found love Jul 22, 2024
    • Jul 17, 2024 Stanley Tucci, Italian cooking, cancer, and the meaning of life Jul 17, 2024
    • Jul 15, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 7: Before the miracle, a penetrating question Jul 15, 2024
    • Jul 10, 2024 A popular lyric. A friend’s example. The challenge I’m facing today Jul 10, 2024
    • Jul 8, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 6: The peril of pride masked by obedience Jul 8, 2024
    • Jul 3, 2024 My answers for those who ask me ‘How’s Evelyn? And how are you?’ Jul 3, 2024
    • Jul 1, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 5: Just one meeting changed everything Jul 1, 2024
  • June 2024
    • Jun 28, 2024 Through the decades, our life has been filled with love notes Jun 28, 2024
    • Jun 26, 2024 Marking an unremarkable anniversary with the woman I’ll never forget Jun 26, 2024
    • Jun 24, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 4: Two sisters, two choices, top priority Jun 24, 2024
    • Jun 19, 2024 My 30-minute outburst: new rage and new grief in a new chapter Jun 19, 2024
    • Jun 17, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 3: Describing worship to an outcast—and us Jun 17, 2024
    • Jun 12, 2024 The questions I tried to answer, and the one that left me speechless Jun 12, 2024
    • Jun 10, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 2: Confronted with the challenge to believe Jun 10, 2024
    • Jun 5, 2024 Calculating ‘quality of life’ amid my not-finished-yet goodbye Jun 5, 2024
    • Jun 3, 2024 Jesus Loved Them, Part 1: Matthew, a surprising call to discipleship Jun 3, 2024
  • May 2024
    • May 29, 2024 Four more conclusions in response to a caregiver’s plea for help May 29, 2024
    • May 27, 2024 Monday Meditation: New Beginnings, Part three: The body thrives May 27, 2024
    • May 20, 2024 Monday Meditation: New Beginnings, Part two: It’s all about Jesus May 20, 2024
    • May 15, 2024 ‘Be the husband.’ What did I think that advice really means? May 15, 2024
    • May 13, 2024 Monday Meditation: New Beginnings, Part one: The Spirit comes May 13, 2024
    • May 8, 2024 Making the best decisions will likely continue to be a challenge May 8, 2024
    • May 6, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 6: Waiting was what they needed May 6, 2024
    • May 1, 2024 An acrostic to help me remember six goals for a life on purpose May 1, 2024
  • April 2024
    • Apr 29, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 5: He served a simple meal Apr 29, 2024
    • Apr 24, 2024 My first dinner guests at home alone: enjoyable, but different Apr 24, 2024
    • Apr 22, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 4: He needed to be convinced Apr 22, 2024
    • Apr 19, 2024 After 30 years of togetherness, now we’re living one day at a time Apr 19, 2024
    • Apr 16, 2024 I’m finally admitting that ‘Mark and Evelyn’ doesn’t describe reality Apr 16, 2024
    • Apr 15, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 3: They needed his peace Apr 15, 2024
    • Apr 15, 2024 One week after our big transition: I’m hoping the shadow has passed Apr 15, 2024
    • Apr 8, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 2: They couldn’t see who he was Apr 8, 2024
    • Apr 3, 2024 Too soon? Too late? Right? Wrong? I have made a difficult decision Apr 3, 2024
    • Apr 1, 2024 Monday Meditation: He’s Alive! Part 1: They did not understand Apr 1, 2024
  • March 2024
    • Mar 27, 2024 I have a full glass, barely holding all I’ve had to pour into it Mar 27, 2024
    • Mar 25, 2024 Monday meditation: His final days, Part 6: He identifies with us Mar 25, 2024
    • Mar 20, 2024 What probably would have been and what possibly could someday be Mar 20, 2024
    • Mar 18, 2024 Monday Meditation: His Final Days, Part 5: A surprising story Mar 18, 2024
    • Mar 13, 2024 Two years later, the string of change just keeps getting longer Mar 13, 2024
    • Mar 11, 2024 Monday Meditation: His Final Days, Part 4: A shocking denial Mar 11, 2024
    • Mar 6, 2024 Pondering the meaning and mystery of who she was and who she is Mar 6, 2024
    • Mar 4, 2024 Monday meditation: His Final Days, Part 3: A selfish betrayal Mar 4, 2024
  • February 2024
    • Feb 28, 2024 Words necessary, difficult, and becoming common: ‘I need your help’ Feb 28, 2024
    • Feb 26, 2024 Monday Meditation: His Final Days, Part 2: A meal to remember Feb 26, 2024
    • Feb 21, 2024 Embracing anger: one strategy for protecting me from sadness Feb 21, 2024
    • Feb 19, 2024 Monday Meditation: His Final Days, Part 1: An example of service Feb 19, 2024
    • Feb 14, 2024 Privilege or burden or both? How to know I’m feeling right about this Feb 14, 2024
    • Feb 12, 2024 Monday Meditation: ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 6: Getting what I deserve Feb 12, 2024
    • Feb 7, 2024 What’s next for us? Looking to God for the answers I need most Feb 7, 2024
    • Feb 5, 2024 Monday Meditation: ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 5: Admitting my lack Feb 5, 2024
  • January 2024
    • Jan 31, 2024 Amid today’s unprecedented criticism, I thank God for the church! Jan 31, 2024
    • Jan 29, 2024 Monday Meditation: ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 4: Continuing to pray Jan 29, 2024
    • Jan 24, 2024 Two lists with insight into how I’m actually coping right now Jan 24, 2024
    • Jan 22, 2024 ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 3: Recognizing God’s presence and love Jan 22, 2024
    • Jan 17, 2024 All’s well that ends well enough: a record of this week’s surprises Jan 17, 2024
    • Jan 15, 2024 Monday meditation: ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 2: Anticipating the harvest Jan 15, 2024
    • Jan 10, 2024 The days are good, even when grief stops by for an unexpected visit Jan 10, 2024
    • Jan 8, 2024 Monday meditation: ‘Tell Me a Story,’ Part 1: Measuring my life Jan 8, 2024
    • Jan 3, 2024 Thinking about sniffles in a whole new way: It’s not ‘JUST a cold’ Jan 3, 2024
    • Jan 1, 2024 Monday meditation: ‘God Came Down,’ Part 5: Ending the wait Jan 1, 2024
  • December 2023
    • Dec 27, 2023 ‘Keeping Christmas,’ it happened again for us, even this year Dec 27, 2023
    • Dec 25, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘God Came Down,’ Part 4: Claiming his gift Dec 25, 2023
    • Dec 20, 2023 I’ll not call this a Christmas letter, just a greeting from the heart Dec 20, 2023
    • Dec 18, 2023 Monday Meditation: ‘God Came Down,’ Part 3: Responding to the news Dec 18, 2023
    • Dec 13, 2023 It comes slowly, so I’ll keep at it—again and again and again Dec 13, 2023
    • Dec 11, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘God came down,’ Part 2: Knowing his presence Dec 11, 2023
    • Dec 6, 2023 ‘Different’ describes our days, including our Christmas this year Dec 6, 2023
    • Dec 4, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘God came down,’ Part 1: Accepting the call Dec 4, 2023
  • November 2023
    • Nov 29, 2023 This Thanksgiving and next: searching for the right decisions Nov 29, 2023
    • Nov 27, 2023 Monday Meditation: Helping the one with no excuse for his problem Nov 27, 2023
    • Nov 22, 2023 Because? In spite of? I’m learning to be grateful in both situations Nov 22, 2023
    • Nov 20, 2023 Monday meditation: Thanking God for every ‘good and perfect gift’ Nov 20, 2023
    • Nov 15, 2023 Talking to myself in a room that feels empty. This is my story Nov 15, 2023
    • Nov 13, 2023 Monday meditation: Building on sand always takes special care Nov 13, 2023
    • Nov 8, 2023 Saturday, Sunday, sad: Her memory is the least of her losses Nov 8, 2023
    • Nov 6, 2023 Monday meditation: What Jesus offered was better than religion Nov 6, 2023
    • Nov 3, 2023 Shared story: How caregiving has affirmed for me a simple truth Nov 3, 2023
    • Nov 1, 2023 We knew the season for sheltering fragile life wasn’t far away Nov 1, 2023
  • October 2023
    • Oct 30, 2023 Monday meditation: Questions for anyone afraid they’re about to sink Oct 30, 2023
    • Oct 25, 2023 Perspective comes from noting the blessings. So I’ll jot a few here Oct 25, 2023
    • Oct 23, 2023 Monday meditation: What he thought was his all, was really only a start Oct 23, 2023
    • Oct 18, 2023 No matter their age, it’s a privilege to partner on the journey Oct 18, 2023
    • Oct 16, 2023 Monday meditation: How good to believe he loves ALL the children! Oct 16, 2023
    • Oct 11, 2023 Even when it comes in small doses, satisfaction is something to savor Oct 11, 2023
    • Oct 9, 2023 Monday meditation: Just concentrate on today’s decisions—and blessings Oct 9, 2023
    • Oct 4, 2023 Happiness? Contentment? Satisfaction? Which should I decide to seek? Oct 4, 2023
    • Oct 2, 2023 Monday meditation: Jesus cares about the burden we’re carrying Oct 2, 2023
  • September 2023
    • Sep 29, 2023 Shared story: The important lessons I put into practice too slowly Sep 29, 2023
    • Sep 27, 2023 Handling the new while grieving the loss of the old: It’s not easy Sep 27, 2023
    • Sep 25, 2023 Monday meditation: He patiently sees and understands and satisfies Sep 25, 2023
    • Sep 22, 2023 Shared story: Reflecting, praying, hoping at the start of a new year Sep 22, 2023
    • Sep 20, 2023 I need to hear what I believe the doctors are really saying Sep 20, 2023
    • Sep 18, 2023 Monday meditation: Listening in on a conversation between teachers Sep 18, 2023
    • Sep 13, 2023 Reflections on our blessings from a week that was full, very full! Sep 13, 2023
    • Sep 11, 2023 Monday Meditation: How do I feel about his whole night of prayer? Sep 11, 2023
    • Sep 6, 2023 What I’m deciding these days: Blunted blessings are still blessings! Sep 6, 2023
    • Sep 4, 2023 Monday meditation: We know what to expect, and that’s a problem Sep 4, 2023
  • August 2023
    • Aug 30, 2023 Stanley Tucci, Italian cooking, cancer, and the meaning of life Aug 30, 2023
    • Aug 28, 2023 Monday meditation: in his temptation we find help for ourselves Aug 28, 2023
    • Aug 25, 2023 Shared story: Joy from memories of who she was, and who she had become Aug 25, 2023
    • Aug 23, 2023 A voice from the past, a reflection that makes us sad—and proud Aug 23, 2023
    • Aug 21, 2023 Monday meditation: the example of Jesus and a reminder to hope Aug 21, 2023
    • Aug 16, 2023 Our best version of a good week. (Some moments didn’t make Facebook.) Aug 16, 2023
    • Aug 14, 2023 Monday meditation: A man of action, and a spirit of submission Aug 14, 2023
    • Aug 7, 2023 Monday meditation: trusting in God for help only he can provide Aug 7, 2023
    • Aug 2, 2023 A picture post to confirm a friend’s assessment: ‘Your life is rich’ Aug 2, 2023
  • July 2023
    • Jul 31, 2023 Monday meditation: We can identify with the pit Jonah experienced Jul 31, 2023
    • Jul 26, 2023 Thanks to others, I can sing with Evelyn as I think about my faith Jul 26, 2023
    • Jul 24, 2023 Monday meditation: We, too, might actually consider running away Jul 24, 2023
    • Jul 19, 2023 Friends who care are helping me think afresh about my situation Jul 19, 2023
    • Jul 17, 2023 Monday meditation: Learning to know when enough is simply enough Jul 17, 2023
    • Jul 12, 2023 I’ll acknowledge a reality that won’t soon go away. Yep, I’m sad Jul 12, 2023
    • Jul 10, 2023 Monday meditation: Fantastic power, just like a summer blockbuster Jul 10, 2023
    • Jul 5, 2023 What I’m learning about God, Alzheimer’s, and myself (shared post) Jul 5, 2023
    • Jul 3, 2023 Learning to Trust, Part 1: Solomon’s prayer is the best place to start Jul 3, 2023
  • June 2023
    • Jun 28, 2023 Our 50th wedding anniversary celebration: Very nice, nice enough Jun 28, 2023
    • Jun 21, 2023 How and why caregivers order their days around another’s needs Jun 21, 2023
    • Jun 14, 2023 Long friendships, quick goodbyes, and a chapter’s certain end Jun 14, 2023
    • Jun 12, 2023 Monday meditation: Which giant? Whose battle? What victory? Jun 12, 2023
    • Jun 7, 2023 ‘All my life you have been faithful’—and God’s not the only one! Jun 7, 2023
    • Jun 5, 2023 Monday meditation: Samuel’s challenge to choose . . . and ours Jun 5, 2023
    • Jun 2, 2023 Shared story: We promised she would always know she was loved Jun 2, 2023
  • May 2023
    • May 31, 2023 Everything’s the same. Everything’s different. And that’s OK May 31, 2023
    • May 24, 2023 Even with tiny red capes at my ankles, I’d never be a Superman May 24, 2023
    • May 22, 2023 Monday meditation: Suppose we choose something besides what’s best? May 22, 2023
    • May 17, 2023 Precious people, special days, moments something like ‘normal’ May 17, 2023
    • May 15, 2023 Monday meditation: The act and the fact of commemorating God at work May 15, 2023
    • May 10, 2023 ‘Live in the moment.’ Good advice, even from a daily cartoon May 10, 2023
    • May 8, 2023 Monday meditation: She prayed with a promise, and then kept her vow May 8, 2023
    • May 3, 2023 Things continue to be different for us. And really, that’s normal May 3, 2023
    • May 1, 2023 Monday meditation: Another example showing us how God works May 1, 2023
  • April 2023
    • Apr 26, 2023 They call. They come. They help. And I couldn’t be more grateful Apr 26, 2023
    • Apr 24, 2023 Monday meditation: Surprised by my tendency to seek myself Apr 24, 2023
    • Apr 19, 2023 It’s time for me to battle the multitasking monster. But how? Apr 19, 2023
    • Apr 17, 2023 Monday meditation: Just one step. It’s all—and everything—we can do Apr 17, 2023
    • Apr 12, 2023 Good stress or bad? Pondering the pressures of a busy weekend Apr 12, 2023
    • Apr 10, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘Peace on earth’ can be our experience anytime Apr 10, 2023
    • Apr 5, 2023 Thinking about prayer, Part Two: Four for Evelyn—and me, too! Apr 5, 2023
    • Apr 3, 2023 Monday meditation: Our unwanted burden can be spiritual service Apr 3, 2023
  • March 2023
    • Mar 31, 2023 Shared story: There is life after caregiving! Part two: Moving on Mar 31, 2023
    • Mar 29, 2023 Should I ‘bother’ God with this? Thinking about prayer, Part One Mar 29, 2023
    • Mar 27, 2023 Monday meditation: Deciding not to believe the majority report Mar 27, 2023
    • Mar 24, 2023 Shared story: There is life after caregiving! Part one: Our journey Mar 24, 2023
    • Mar 22, 2023 Who knows what it really means to serve? For sure, I did not Mar 22, 2023
    • Mar 20, 2023 Monday meditation: Timeless guardrails for how to stay steady Mar 20, 2023
    • Mar 15, 2023 The art of giving what’s dearly needed and completely unexpected Mar 15, 2023
    • Mar 13, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘The job is too much for you to handle alone’ Mar 13, 2023
    • Mar 8, 2023 One year later: reflections and a resolve to keep on writing Mar 8, 2023
    • Mar 6, 2023 Monday Meditation: How caregivers can satisfy their special hunger Mar 6, 2023
    • Mar 1, 2023 Amid regret, the chance to rejoice in ‘the day the Lord has made’ Mar 1, 2023
  • February 2023
    • Feb 27, 2023 Monday Meditation: Better than slavery in the desert of fear Feb 27, 2023
    • Feb 22, 2023 There’s really so much to consider, and way too much to tell Feb 22, 2023
    • Feb 20, 2023 Monday meditation: ‘God, is this really the calling you’ve given me?’ Feb 20, 2023
    • Feb 15, 2023 Lesson from a professional: Let’s keep that left hand strong Feb 15, 2023
    • Feb 13, 2023 Monday meditation: We’re not as powerless as we sometimes feel Feb 13, 2023
    • Feb 8, 2023 Loneliness, Part 2: ‘Filled with a sense of irreplaceable loss’ Feb 8, 2023
    • Feb 6, 2023 Monday meditation: An unknown future calls us to trust an eternal God Feb 6, 2023
    • Feb 3, 2023 Shared story: I can honestly say I’ve been blessed through it all Feb 3, 2023
    • Feb 1, 2023 A caregiver’s loneliness is about more than being alone, Part 1 Feb 1, 2023
  • January 2023
    • Jan 30, 2023 Monday meditation: Remembering the love you first felt many years ago Jan 30, 2023
    • Jan 25, 2023 Not all, but not nothing: one caregiver’s quest for balance Jan 25, 2023
    • Jan 23, 2023 Monday meditation: He gave up comfort and certainty for obedience Jan 23, 2023
    • Jan 18, 2023 Why ‘Monday Meditations’? Fruit from a long-term relationship Jan 18, 2023
    • Jan 16, 2023 Monday meditation: Choosing to concentrate on all God has given Jan 16, 2023
    • Jan 13, 2023 Shared story: We are coping, but this disease does not pause or stop Jan 13, 2023
    • Jan 11, 2023 Finding ‘peace and poise’ amid many reminders that the past is past Jan 11, 2023
    • Jan 6, 2023 Shared story: My journey as a long-distance caregiver, Part 3 Jan 6, 2023
    • Jan 4, 2023 One caregiver considers another new year: resignation and hope Jan 4, 2023
  • December 2022
    • Dec 21, 2022 Welcome, old friend! We’re glad you’re here, even with the changes Dec 21, 2022
    • Dec 14, 2022 Trying to remember a friend’s simple advice: ‘Live your life!’ Dec 14, 2022
    • Dec 7, 2022 At Christmas, too: Everything’s the same, and everything’s different Dec 7, 2022
  • November 2022
    • Nov 30, 2022 Only slowly am I learning to embrace these days as privilege Nov 30, 2022
    • Nov 23, 2022 Thinking about thanks with a gallery of reasons I’m grateful Nov 23, 2022
    • Nov 16, 2022 Since we are our memory, what does this mean for her—and for me? Nov 16, 2022
    • Nov 9, 2022 So many ‘last times,’ with more than a few moments still to savor Nov 9, 2022
    • Nov 4, 2022 Shared Story: ‘I wouldn’t change a thing. But this was hard.’ Nov 4, 2022
    • Nov 2, 2022 21 ways a 5-year-old and an Alzheimer’s patient are so much alike Nov 2, 2022
  • October 2022
    • Oct 21, 2022 Shared story: I’m focusing on enjoying each day with my husband Oct 21, 2022
    • Oct 19, 2022 Even when ‘it’ happens, I’m determined to practice gratitude Oct 19, 2022
    • Oct 14, 2022 Shared story: ‘I pray, but I have many questions about prayer’ Oct 14, 2022
    • Oct 12, 2022 It’s getting colder, time for shelter from the winter to come Oct 12, 2022
    • Oct 7, 2022 Shared story: I’m determined to find the joy in each new day Oct 7, 2022
    • Oct 5, 2022 Happy birthday, Evelyn! Our birthday memories are a gift to me Oct 5, 2022
  • September 2022
    • Sep 30, 2022 The grief, the challenge, and ultimately the blessing of our journey Sep 30, 2022
    • Sep 26, 2022 ‘Open hands’ . . . a picture of hope, a strategy for life Sep 26, 2022
    • Sep 23, 2022 Shared story: 1 Corinthians 13 paraphrased especially for caregivers Sep 23, 2022
    • Sep 21, 2022 Sometimes God answers prayers we haven’t even thought to pray! Sep 21, 2022
    • Sep 16, 2022 Shared story: ‘Whatever happens, we will see it through together’ Sep 16, 2022
    • Sep 14, 2022 Building resilience: a skill it’s never too late for anyone to learn Sep 14, 2022
    • Sep 9, 2022 Shared story: What I learned about the joy of doing mundane tasks Sep 9, 2022
    • Sep 7, 2022 The last time? Deciding when and how to surrender to reality Sep 7, 2022
  • August 2022
    • Aug 31, 2022 ‘It doesn’t matter.’ Three words to bring peace and offer perspective Aug 31, 2022
    • Aug 24, 2022 Facing myself and our life. Am I in denial about being in denial? Aug 24, 2022
    • Aug 17, 2022 I’m coming to terms with totally new definitions for success Aug 17, 2022
    • Aug 10, 2022 Summer break: What could be better than a visit with family? Aug 10, 2022
    • Aug 3, 2022 The most surprising advice I’ve received: Look for the humor! Aug 3, 2022
  • July 2022
    • Jul 27, 2022 Another first: a family vacation for me while Evelyn stayed home Jul 27, 2022
    • Jul 20, 2022 The unexpected reason I’m glad to be writing these blog posts Jul 20, 2022
    • Jul 13, 2022 There’s no future in two little words I’m trying to put behind me Jul 13, 2022
    • Jul 6, 2022 Here’s a new label caregivers can wear proudly. We are pro-life Jul 6, 2022
    • Jul 1, 2022 These songs are just samples of an important way I find encouragement Jul 1, 2022
  • June 2022
    • Jun 29, 2022 Only now am I beginning to realize all the work she did for us Jun 29, 2022
    • Jun 24, 2022 Here’s the book that changed my journey by teaching me about lament Jun 24, 2022
    • Jun 22, 2022 ‘Home is where the heart is,’ but I can’t always take her there Jun 22, 2022
    • Jun 17, 2022 Help for you, something new, and then two updates for readers Jun 17, 2022
    • Jun 15, 2022 ‘Thoughts and prayers’—I’ve come to believe they’re working for me Jun 15, 2022
    • Jun 10, 2022 Shared story: My journey as a long-distance caregiver, Part 2 Jun 10, 2022
    • Jun 8, 2022 The best advice I’ve received so far: ‘Just let them love you’ Jun 8, 2022
    • Jun 3, 2022 Shared story: My journey as a long-distance caregiver, Part 1 Jun 3, 2022
    • Jun 1, 2022 Glad and sad, and strengthened by the conviction to nurture hope Jun 1, 2022
  • May 2022
    • May 27, 2022 Shared story: Others walking with us made all the difference May 27, 2022
    • May 25, 2022 Memory is my issue, too. What were our days like before Alzheimer’s? May 25, 2022
    • May 20, 2022 Shared story: I’m just as committed now as I was 50 years ago May 20, 2022
    • May 18, 2022 The denial game I’m playing: Change my focus? Not me. Not yet May 18, 2022
    • May 13, 2022 Shared story: unique grief, today’s victories, a blip in eternity May 13, 2022
    • May 11, 2022 Readers offer great alternatives to ‘How is your wife doing?’ May 11, 2022
    • May 6, 2022 Shared story: My community of care made all the difference for us May 6, 2022
    • May 4, 2022 ‘Keeping up appearances,’ the caregiver’s difficult, daily desire May 4, 2022
  • April 2022
    • Apr 29, 2022 Shared Story: From the infusion room: ‘I hate you, damn cancer!’ Apr 29, 2022
    • Apr 27, 2022 A birthday prayer: Even with challenges, so many reasons for gratitude Apr 27, 2022
    • Apr 22, 2022 Shared story: Somedays I’m just weary, so I take it one day at a time Apr 22, 2022
    • Apr 20, 2022 These days I’m discovering—and embracing—a sometimes painful joy Apr 20, 2022
    • Apr 15, 2022 Shared story: She was my superhero who wouldn’t lay down her cape Apr 15, 2022
    • Apr 13, 2022 I’m learning to embrace this new calling, the one I never expected Apr 13, 2022
    • Apr 8, 2022 Shared Story: I treasure the walk through the battlefield we shared Apr 8, 2022
    • Apr 6, 2022 Why “take care of yourself” is a challenge for caregivers like me Apr 6, 2022
    • Apr 1, 2022 Shared story: Taking care of me is the best way to care for her Apr 1, 2022
  • March 2022
    • Mar 30, 2022 It’s my problem, so I’ll cry if I want to (w/apologies to Lesley Gore) Mar 30, 2022
    • Mar 25, 2022 Shared story: Becoming a caregiver in the blink of an eye Mar 25, 2022
    • Mar 23, 2022 My most important coping skill: embracing the beauty of both Mar 23, 2022
    • Mar 16, 2022 It was a big step for me finally to wear the label caregiver Mar 16, 2022
    • Mar 9, 2022 The forgetting gives us an important opportunity. We can remember Mar 9, 2022

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