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Navigating change is everyone’s challenge, but for me it’s different
We live in an age of constant change, even though our instinct is to resist it. But for caregivers like me, facing change is a weekly challenge.
Questions from the Bible, Part Two: ‘Which of these was his neighbor?’
I need look no farther than the place Evelyn lives to find my answer to the question Jesus asked.
Good people. Good question. Two words. Good weekend. Good progress
Everyone who knows about Alzheimer’s anticipates that Evelyn is not doing well. But my new friend asked about me.
Questions from the Bible, Part One: ‘Why were you looking for me?’
Mary and Joseph did not understand the question Jesus asked. But it leads us to reevaluate a question we may be asking God.
Beginning with tears, ending with reflection: An old man’s pattern
I don’t know why I had tears that morning. But a story from Scripture gave me a new idea.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 9: Why was he the only one to say thanks?
“Why do I deserve this?” We may ask the question when bad times come our way. Do we think to ask it when we’ve received a special blessing?
A trip to a scenic corner. A step in the journey that now feels new
Another family vacation without Evelyn. Wonderful—and sad.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 8: They overcame the obstacles and found love
Jesus couldn’t ignore their bold move, but he gave them more than they likely expected.
Stanley Tucci, Italian cooking, cancer, and the meaning of life
I was getting a little bored with the book till I came to the last chapter and realized Tucci had touched something far more profound than what we’ll fix for dinner.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 7: Before the miracle, a penetrating question
The question would make a great meme, and each person’s answer can direct his future days.
A popular lyric. A friend’s example. The challenge I’m facing today
The resolution to one friend’s stress could lead to deeper peace for me, too.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 6: The peril of pride masked by obedience
What would have been different if he had come with even a couple of these attitudes?
My answers for those who ask me ‘How’s Evelyn? And how are you?’
We’re on something of a plateau right now. Things could be better, of course, but I’m glad they’re not worse.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 5: Just one meeting changed everything
All his life he felt less than. Could this miracle-working teacher show him his true worth?
Through the decades, our life has been filled with love notes
All of our life he wrote me love notes. And now I’m writing them to him.
Marking an unremarkable anniversary with the woman I’ll never forget
For the first time in 51 years, we didn’t celebrate our wedding anniversary. But I marked the occasion in a way I’ll always remember.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 4: Two sisters, two choices, top priority
Many caregivers can identify with Martha’s complaint. Many more would be helped by imitating Mary.
My 30-minute outburst: new rage and new grief in a new chapter
Briefly Sunday night I couldn’t contain the negative emotions or stop the agitated outburst.
Jesus Loved Them, Part 3: Describing worship to an outcast—and us
This is the “kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship.”
The questions I tried to answer, and the one that left me speechless
Benevolent lies are stock-in-trade for Alzheimer’s caregivers. But I couldn’t think of any way to respond to a question that struck at the core of what she’s facing.